How should we deal with a loss of a loved one. I don’t know. There’s no right way. Everyone grieves in their own way.
For me, death is a reminder. I don’t view deaths as something tragic. It’s just something that happens. It’s part of the natural process. Death happens all the time. Everywhere. To every kind of people. Young, old, rich, poor, smart, stupid, humble, arrogant, polite, rude, healthy, ill, athletic, obese, loud, quiet. Death comes to us all.
A stoic view of death is not one of indifference or detachment. The approach is to understand deeply the normalcy death, to realize that as one was born, one is already dying. Understand that it’s outside your control when your time will come. What’s use is there to cry your eyes out or to fall into deep sorrow? If you understand, you understand. Don’t pretend to be sad, then.
So your loved one is dead, soon you will be too. Cherish the good memories and go on living a good life.